Thoughts

My Illusion or Harassment

I thought for several days, but then could not stop myself for writing this article and of course, my intention is not to generalize the issue. It was the first time my friend commented on my tee shirt, saying your hair has been fallen. I said where it is? He signaled me on my front part and which is considered as the sensitive part of women. I went on thinking he should not have said so and felt awkward too. After couple of weeks I was wearing a tee shirt having small logo on the front left part, the same friend again started watching my tee shirt laughing and saying “I was just watching the logo of your tee shirt”. But this time I raised my notebook and managed to be safe. Third time he again commented on my tee-shirt’s print at my front. This time I really felt disgusting about him for what he commented on. I asked him; why your concentration is always at my tee-shirt? He just laughed and replied “I was just joking”. The very first time I really felt bad but then also second thought came into my mind about his intention that he might not be thinking such as I am thinking after all he is my good friend. Second time, I thought the same but third time I really could not stand and raise my voice against him and with that I decided to ended my friendship too. Nevertheless, ending friendship was not the solution but what could be the alternative either? Being a friend, what could be the level of joking? Is that how a male friend supposed to behave with a female friend and passing such comments in the name of dress? Though, these things are happening in our daily life within known people around us; Most of the time we try to avoid the situation, sometimes we take it as a joke and hide whatever happened and tend to forget. But for how long we will be hiding, pretending or taking it as a joke.